Wednesday, 15 March 2017

Women should aspire for space and freedom to make their existence worthwhile on this earth


 For the last one week, the articles have been  circulating in News Papers and Magazines, in all languages, on International women’s day. Lot of articles based on feminism ideology  have been shared, read, discussed at different levels, but the  facts have  remained unchanged in many parts of the countries. Women have been subjected to oppression and harassment all over the world since many decades and it has continued.
The word ‘feminism’ I had  heard when I was studying in art school. Later, the ideology integrated into my life and become a second skin. As a woman, the philosophy insisted, I became more and more conscious of the ideology and  its implementation .  When I subject myself to  self analysis, I realise that I am a born feminist because since my childhood I have clearly stated my likes and dislikes frankly and honestly. I have never tried to please anyone, not even my parents. So I was labelled as eccentric and different. To my father’s chagrin, I always differed, when my  brother always agreed to my dad’s opinions. I wanted to lead my life the way I wanted, and I have lived as I have  wished.
Virginia Woolf's essay A room of  one's own  - speaks about the conditions of women writers in those days. Virginia states that woman with no space of her own cannot  express her views and opinions confidently and frankly. Along with that she insists that  financial independence is also necessary for women to come out with their true expressions and to lead meaningful life. Women are totally subjugated  and moulded so as to respect  and sacrifice for men. Sacrifice  is counted as a virtue of a good woman by men, and good women are forced to sacrifice, whether they are willing or not. Since decades men have been dictating as how women should behave , lead life  according to their whims and fancies. In the whole process, woman has been downtrodden, marginalised and has lost  entity.  American philosopher Ayn Rand speaks of selfishness  as a virtue, and  all women should  inculcate this virtue and change their age old attitude.  A bit of selfishness,  a bit of private space,  a bit of financial independence  will change a woman's outlook.  Every woman should aspire for her room, her personal space, where one can discover one's new identities , new avenues to lead  rich and beautiful life.  A room of one's own symbolises many things- a personal space, privacy to analyse one's dreams and passions, to live in harmony with oneself, independence and so on. In this room, in this space of privacy, one will be able to understand and discover oneself.                                                                                  We speak of feminist ideology , speak of equal rights, of voting power and property rights , in length and breadth, but here is an example which shows how things have remained untouched in some places.
A few years back, a house wife was narrating her experience to her family friends at a party. At first, it seemed meaningless as I do not indulge in  gossip. On close hearing, I realised the point of discrimination and how badly she has been treated by her husband. She was narrating that she was seriously sick and hospitalized for some months. Her dutiful husband made it a point to visit her every day at the hospital, stand at the door of her room for five minutes and go back. He never stepped into the room, never spent time with her in the hospital, during her months long stay in the hospital. This incident hardened her feelings, made her lose love and respect for her husband forever. This poor woman does not know anything about gender equality or feminism. I felt very sorry for both.  Men  spend their whole life with their wives, but still refuse to give the due respect they deserve because these women are not educated and financially independent. Comparing to these incidents, now the scenario has changed a bit and for the better. Women have been excelling in all the felids on par with the men. For me, it is really a matter  of pride.  Now women are well educated, doing jobs, and are  independent financially.  With good education and financial independence, women have started progressing and  achieving things and this certainly has given a different sort of confidence to women.  As more and more women realise their identities and  real value of existence, they will try to have careers and lead meaningful life.  Clarity of thinking will provide a fundamental base to all women to realise their dreams and live it to the full.  For this,  a woman needs  space and time to think of herself.  Space and time at women's disposal, women will come out  with wonderful things for herself and for the whole world.

Linguistic  studies reflect how women are kept out of the centre , out of focus,  purposely by men. The arrangement of words like father and mother, brother and sister – indicate the first preference given to male. This has been structured, manipulated and  built up systematically over period, so as  to keep women out of the centre. Throughout history, all achievements have been attributed to men signifying that women’s existence is marginal and her  contributions are negligible.  Through the study of art  and literature  one comes to know  how woman has been marginalized since decades. Even in art history, there is no proper documentation of women artists.  While reading, one come across such details as women were not permitted to study painting but were allowed  to study only craft and culinary art in those days. To break all these shackles and move forward , women need ample courage and incessant efforts.There is a sign of progress  as women have entered into all fields on equal foot with men. It is mainly  education which has empowered women and  enabled them to venture in to new felids which were earlier meant for  men only. With a strong demand for space and time for oneself,  women can progress fast and lead a contented life. 

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